《聖經中的父親》Day 04

放縱之父的溺愛

22 以利年甚老邁,聽見他兩個兒子待以色列眾人的事,又聽見他們與會幕門前伺候的婦人苟合,23 他就對他們說:「你們為何行這樣的事呢?我從這眾百姓聽見你們的惡行。24 我兒啊,不可這樣!我聽見你們的風聲不好,你們使耶和華的百姓犯了罪。25 人若得罪人,有士師審判他;人若得罪耶和華,誰能為他祈求呢?」然而他們還是不聽父親的話,因為耶和華想要殺他們。(撒母耳記上二22-25)

11 耶和華對撒母耳說:「我在以色列中必行一件事,叫聽見的人都必耳鳴。12 我指著以利家所說的話,到了時候,我必始終應驗在以利身上。13 我曾告訴他必永遠降罰與他的家,因他知道兒子作孽,自招咒詛,卻不禁止他們。14所以我向以利家起誓說:『以利家的罪孽,雖獻祭奉禮物,永不能得贖去。』」15 撒母耳睡到天亮,就開了耶和華的殿門,不敢將默示告訴以利。16 以利呼喚撒母耳說:「我兒撒母耳啊!」撒母耳回答說:「我在這裏!」17 以利說:「耶和華對你說甚麼,你不要向我隱瞞;你若將上帝對你所說的隱瞞一句,願祂重重地降罰與你。」18 撒母耳就把一切話都告訴了以利,並沒有隱瞞。以利說:「這是出於耶和華,願祂憑自己的意旨而行。」(撒母耳記上三11-18)

22 Now Eli, who was very old, heard about everything his sons were doing to all Israel and how they slept with the women who served at the entrance to the tent of meeting. 23 So he said to them, “Why do you do such things? I hear from all the people about these wicked deeds of yours. 24 No, my sons; the report I hear spreading among the Lord’s people is not good. 25 If one person sins against another, God may mediate for the offender; but if anyone sins against the Lord, who will intercede for them?” His sons, however, did not listen to their father’s rebuke, for it was the Lord’s will to put them to death. (1 Samuel 2:22-25)

11And the Lord said to Samuel: “See, I am about to do something in Israel that will make the ears of everyone who hears about it tingle. 12At that time I will carry out against Eli everything I spoke against his family—from beginning to end. 13For I told him that I would judge his family forever because of the sin he knew about; his sons blasphemed God, and he failed to restrain them. 14Therefore I swore to the house of Eli, ‘The guilt of Eli’s house will never be atoned for by sacrifice or offering.’ ” 15Samuel lay down until morning and then opened the doors of the house of the Lord. He was afraid to tell Eli the vision, 16but Eli called him and said, “Samuel, my son.” Samuel answered, “Here I am.” 17“What was it he said to you?” Eli asked. “Do not hide it from me. May God deal with you, be it ever so severely, if you hide from me anything he told you.” 18So Samuel told him everything, hiding nothing from him. Then Eli said, “He is the Lord; let him do what is good in his eyes.” (1 Samuel 3:11-18)

分享:今天,讓我們重溫一位失敗的父親,他就是《撒母耳記中》的以利。根據記載,以利是一個明白上帝心意的士師。在上帝呼喚撒母耳一事上,以利更是引導他回應上帝的人 (參撒母耳記上三8-9) 。 就算以利知道上帝將要降罰予他一家,他仍然說:「這是出於耶和華,願祂憑自己的意旨而行。」(參撒母耳記上三18)

聖經清楚表明上帝降罰以利一家的原因是:「因他知道兒子作孽,自招咒詛,卻不禁止他們。」(參撒母耳記上三13) 對比起前兩天分享的挪亞與亞伯拉罕,以利不但沒有以生命感染兒子,傳承兒女屬靈特質,他更是放縱他們作孽、行上帝不喜悅的事。雖然以利也有責備兒子,卻沒有阻止他們犯罪。(參撒母耳記上二22-25) 以利的問題就是愛兒子多於愛上帝,最終招此悲慘遭遇 (參撒母耳記上四) 。這也是很多基督徒的寫照:「我愛上帝,但我更愛其他人、事、物」。這,又給你什麼提醒呢?

再者,以利這樣放縱兒子行惡,並不是愛他們,而是加害他們。大家有沒有聽過楊鎖這名字?楊鎖出生在河南的一個普通家庭,父母對他相當寵愛。例如:楊鎖6歲時仍需要父母餵飯;他走路嫌累,直到8歲時才第一次自己獨立行走,這樣的寵愛寵出了悲劇來。由於父母親相繼離世,楊鎖並不能自理生活,於23歲時就被活活餓死,傳媒形容他是「天下第一懶」。這是愛,還是加害?我相信大家心裡有數。

回應剛過去的主日信息,我們要以上帝的標準作出管教,也要以上帝的標準活出愛。「愛」和「溺愛」兩者並不相同,有教育專家這樣形容:「無止盡的愛不會寵壞小孩,沒有規矩和界線才會寵壞小孩。」這讓我們想到上帝的愛是無止盡的,但卻是有規矩和界線的。今天,讓我們立志以基督的愛去愛我們所愛的人。

今天值得我們反思:
1. 我們愛上帝多於一切嗎?
2. 當你面對所愛的人,又會怎樣設立規矩和界線呢?

禱告:親愛的天父,感謝祢透過以利的失敗提醒我們,要愛祢過於愛一切。同時,我們又要小心自己所付出的愛。叫我們學習祢的愛,是無止盡但有規矩和界線的愛,是真正叫人得益處的愛,而不是放縱生命的溺愛。以上禱告,奉主耶穌得勝的名求,阿們。