《牧徒手記》Day19
《主教導盼望》
17 耶穌到了，就知道拉撒路在墳墓裏已經四天了。18 伯大尼離耶路撒冷不遠，約有六里路。19 有好些猶太人來看馬大和馬利亞，要為她們的兄弟安慰她們。20 馬大聽見耶穌來了，就出去迎接祂；馬利亞卻仍然坐在家裏。21 馬大對耶穌說：「主啊，祢若早在這裏，我兄弟必不死。22 就是現在，我也知道，祢無論向神求甚麼，神也必賜給祢。」23 耶穌說：「你兄弟必然復活。」24 馬大說：「我知道在末日復活的時候，他必復活。」25 耶穌對她說：「復活在我，生命也在我。信我的人雖然死了，也必復活；26 凡活着信我的人必永遠不死。你信這話嗎？」27 馬大說：「主啊，是的，我信祢是基督，是神的兒子，就是那要臨到世界的。」28 馬大說了這話，就回去暗暗地叫她妹子馬利亞，說：「夫子來了，叫你。」29 馬利亞聽見了，就急忙起來，到耶穌那裏去。30 那時，耶穌還沒有進村子，仍在馬大迎接祂的地方。31 那些同馬利亞在家裏安慰她的猶太人，見她急忙起來出去，就跟着她，以為她要往墳墓那裏去哭。32 馬利亞到了耶穌那裏，看見祂，就俯伏在祂腳前，說：「主啊，祢若早在這裏，我兄弟必不死。」33 耶穌看見她哭，並看見與她同來的猶太人也哭，就心裏悲歎，又甚憂愁， 34 便說：「你們把他安放在哪裏？」他們回答說：「請主來看。」35 耶穌哭了。36 猶太人就說：「你看祂愛這人是何等懇切。」37 其中有人說：「祂既然開了瞎子的眼睛，豈不能叫這人不死嗎？」38 耶穌又心裏悲歎，來到墳墓前；那墳墓是個洞，有一塊石頭擋着。39 耶穌說：「你們把石頭挪開。」那死人的姊姊馬大對祂說：「主啊，他現在必是臭了，因為他死了已經四天了。」40 耶穌說：「我不是對你說過，你若信，就必看見神的榮耀嗎？」41 他們就把石頭挪開。耶穌舉目望天，說：「父啊，我感謝祢，因為祢已經聽我。42 我也知道祢常聽我，但我說這話是為周圍站着的眾人，叫他們信是祢差了我來。」43 說了這話，就大聲呼叫說：「拉撒路出來！」44 那死人就出來了，手腳裹着布，臉上包着手巾。耶穌對他們說：「解開，叫他走！」 (約翰福音十一17-44)
17 On His arrival, Jesus found that Lazarus had already been in the tomb for four days. 18 Now Bethany was less than two miles from Jerusalem, 19 and many Jews had come to Martha and Mary to comfort them in the loss of their brother. 20 When Martha heard that Jesus was coming, she went out to meet Him, but Mary stayed at home. 21 “Lord,” Martha said to Jesus, “if You had been here, my brother would not have died. 22 But I know that even now God will give You whatever You ask.” 23 Jesus said to her, “Your brother will rise again.” 24 Martha answered, “I know he will rise again in the resurrection at the last day.” 25 Jesus said to her, “I am the resurrection and the life. The one who believes in me will live, even though they die; 26 and whoever lives by believing in me will never die. Do you believe this?” 27 “Yes, Lord,” she replied, “I believe that You are the Messiah, the Son of God, who is to come into the world.” 28 After she had said this, she went back and called her sister Mary aside. “The Teacher is here,” she said, “and is asking for you.” 29 When Mary heard this, she got up quickly and went to Him. 30 Now Jesus had not yet entered the village, but was still at the place where Martha had met Him. 31 When the Jews who had been with Mary in the house, comforting her, noticed how quickly she got up and went out, they followed her, supposing she was going to the tomb to mourn there. 32 When Mary reached the place where Jesus was and saw Him, she fell at His feet and said, “Lord, if You had been here, my brother would not have died.” 33 When Jesus saw her weeping, and the Jews who had come along with her also weeping, he was deeply moved in spirit and troubled. 34“Where have you laid him?” He asked. “Come and see, Lord,” they replied. 35 Jesus wept. 36 Then the Jews said, “See how He loved him!” 37 But some of them said, “Could not he who opened the eyes of the blind man have kept this man from dying?” 38 Jesus, once more deeply moved, came to the tomb. It was a cave with a stone laid across the entrance. 39 “Take away the stone,” He said. “But, Lord,” said Martha, the sister of the dead man, “by this time there is a bad odor, for he has been there four days.” 40 Then Jesus said, “Did I not tell you that if you believe, you will see the glory of God?” 41 So they took away the stone. Then Jesus looked up and said, “Father, I thank You that You have heard me. 42 I knew that You always hear me, but I said this for the benefit of the people standing here, that they may believe that You sent me.” 43 When He had said this, Jesus called in a loud voice, “Lazarus, come out!” 44 The dead man came out, his hands and feet wrapped with strips of linen, and a cloth around his face. Jesus said to them, “Take off the grave clothes and let him go.” (John 11:17-44)
【耶穌的見證 ── 眼淚中的盼望】：
馬大和馬利亞見到耶穌時，都說了同一句話：「主啊，祢若早在這裏，我兄弟必不死。」(v.21, 32) 這句話背後，有信心，也有失望。她們相信耶穌有能力醫治拉撒路，所以才更加不明白：為甚麼祢沒有早一點來？耶穌沒有避開她們的失望。
面對馬大，耶穌把她從「末日復活」的神學知識，帶到祂自己：「復活在我，生命也在我。」(v.25) 盼望不只是一件將來會發生的事，盼望首先在於她現在所信靠的是誰。但當耶穌來到馬利亞面前，祂的反應又很不同。馬利亞哭，身邊的人也哭。耶穌明明知道幾分鐘之後拉撒路就要從墳墓走出來，祂卻沒有說：「不要哭啦，等陣你就知。」相反經文卻形容：「耶穌哭了。」(v.35)
這是一幅很深的牧養圖畫。耶穌知道結局，仍然尊重此刻的眼淚；祂知道復活將要來到，仍然進入人的悲傷。然後，祂才走到墳墓前，叫人挪開石頭，讓他們看見神的榮耀。原來耶穌帶給人的盼望，不是否認痛苦，而是告訴我們：即使在最深的眼淚裏，死亡和絕望仍然不是故事的最後一句。
【效法主的提醒】
當我們知道聖經的答案，很容易太快把答案送給一個正在痛苦的人。
有人失去摯愛，我們說：「他已經返天家啦。」有人遭遇重大失敗，我們說：「神一定有祂的美意。」有人正在哭，我們說：「唔好咁傷心，要有信心。」這些說話未必錯，但正確的說話，如果在錯誤的時間說出來，也未必能安慰人。
心理學中有一個概念叫「情緒接納」(Emotional Validation) 。意思不是認同對方所有想法，而是承認：他此刻的感受是真實的，而且值得被聽見。一個人說：「我真的很難過。」我們不一定需要立即令他「諗通」，可以先說：「我知道這件事對你真的很痛。」一個人說：「我不明白神為甚麼容許這件事。」我們不一定立即解釋神的旨意，可以先說：「我明白你現在真的有很多不明白。」
耶穌沒有用復活的真理阻止馬利亞哭；祂先陪她哭，然後才帶她看見復活。所以今天，可以做一個 「與人同哭」的操練。當你遇見一個正在痛苦的人，不要急着把他由谷底拉出來。先在那裏陪他一會兒 ── 聽他的故事，承認他的痛苦，甚至安靜地陪他哭。然後，在適當的時候，再輕輕把他的眼光帶回神：不是保證事情一定按照我們期待的方式改變，而是提醒他，無論眼前的故事如何，我們的盼望仍然在那位說「復活在我，生命也在我」的耶穌身上。
真正的盼望，不是叫人停止流淚；而是陪一個流淚的人，仍然有力量望向耶穌。
今天，效法耶穌 ── 陪人一起流淚，也在眼淚中帶他重新看見盼望。
禱告：主耶穌，感謝祢不是站在人的痛苦之外，而是願意與哀哭的人一同流淚。求祢賜我溫柔和智慧，不急着用答案蓋過別人的傷痛，而是懂得陪伴、聆聽和安慰。也求祢使用我，在合適的時候把人的眼光重新帶到祢身上，讓人在眼淚中仍然看見祢是復活、是生命，也是永不失落的盼望。阿們。
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